Okay, I usually stay mum on this one because no one likes to think they are or were a bad mom, but errrrrrummmm lemme share why I figured it was best to open up this discussion. I have four small, stair-step (in age) children. Needless to say my hands are ALWAYS full. Unless the A-Team is not with me.... very rare that is, might I add. As a stay-at-home mom church is usually our main event for the week. It never fails there is an older mother with her nose turned up concerning my mothering skills. Clearly, her thought is, "What is she doing with all of those children?" Especially because my husband serves the next thought is prolly that I'm a single mother with alllllllllllllllllllllllllll these kids. The misconception changes once we sit down, the children are actually well behaved and I open my mouth with something the Pastor or teacher is in agreement with. Then I just might know what I'm doing until A4's face isn't covered in her covered car seat on the way out. (Car seat cover is pictured below.) 
Now don't get me wrong, I usually let the old ladies get a pass. They don't know I have a coat on my child and that she is sweating with this car seat cover on depending on the weather. (Hey it's Michigan).
Concerning motherhood I definitely stick to old school methods for a lot of things, i.e. teething, potty training, homeopathic remedies, you name it. But I like some new school mommy gadgets also. I've noticed that just in the past seven years with each child I've had that there's a new rule or 15 to follow. Keep car seats rear facing with A1. Turn them to the front by the time I have A2. Turn them jokers back 'round for A3. At what point do you make your own rules?
What is acceptable for one parent may not be acceptable for another, but PLEASE do not tell a mother (especially me) that I am not a good mom because I choose formula over breastfeeding. Maybe I breastfed three and had issues the fourth time around. Or maybe there's another preference you dislike that I choose. Either way, you had an opportunity to raise your children. How great did they turn out by the way?? Now it's my turn. I say this for all the new moms as respectfully as I can. BACK OFF! Instead of judging me or what you think is helping me. ASK me. Pray for me. And don't cross any boundaries. I haven't always been saved. :-)
Concerning motherhood I definitely stick to old school methods for a lot of things, i.e. teething, potty training, homeopathic remedies, you name it. But I like some new school mommy gadgets also. I've noticed that just in the past seven years with each child I've had that there's a new rule or 15 to follow. Keep car seats rear facing with A1. Turn them to the front by the time I have A2. Turn them jokers back 'round for A3. At what point do you make your own rules?
What is acceptable for one parent may not be acceptable for another, but PLEASE do not tell a mother (especially me) that I am not a good mom because I choose formula over breastfeeding. Maybe I breastfed three and had issues the fourth time around. Or maybe there's another preference you dislike that I choose. Either way, you had an opportunity to raise your children. How great did they turn out by the way?? Now it's my turn. I say this for all the new moms as respectfully as I can. BACK OFF! Instead of judging me or what you think is helping me. ASK me. Pray for me. And don't cross any boundaries. I haven't always been saved. :-)
New moms and not so new moms. Sound off. What's your take?
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